I Started Tracking My Own Judgment Patterns to Fix My Social Paranoia — Here’s What I Learned

It was late enough that I should have been asleep when I opened the conversation again. Earlier that day, a friend and I had been making plans to see “Citizen Kane” at a local theater during a weekend retro screening. It was one of those repertory events that made the ordinary theater feel slightly different: … Read more

Confucius Quote: ‘To Make a Mistake and Not to Correct It — Now That Is Called Making a Mistake.’

Why is it that we treat our slip-ups like wrong turns we need to hide, rather than information that can help us get back on course? When we mess up, our modern world so often tells us to pretend we are still headed in the right direction. But the ancient wisdom attributed to Confucius cuts … Read more

Eckhart Tolle Said That We Live Under an ‘Assumption That the Now Needs to Be Filled with Something All the Time,’ and That Made Me Think About How Much of My Free Time I’ve Spent Choosing Distraction Instead of Cultivating Attention

Twelve years ago, I deleted every tweet I had ever written and walked away from my account, leaving behind a blank profile. I did it because I was worn down by the constant chatter of a platform that demanded my attention every hour. Yet, even now, the urge to log back in visits me during … Read more

When People You Care About Are Merely Going Through the Motions During a Subtle Emotional Downturn, They Often Retreat From the Small Relational Rituals That Hold Their Closest Bonds Together

The subway car was unusually empty for a Sunday morning, bathed in that pale, underground light as we rattled toward the museum to see the new Van Gogh exhibit. Jane sat next to me, her coat neatly buttoned, her eyes tracking the digital stop announcements with perfect regularity. When the train lurched, she adjusted her … Read more