The afternoon was grey, the kind of Tuesday that seems to leach the color out of the walls before the sun has even begun to set. Jeremy sat on the edge of my corduroy sofa, his thumb performing a rhythmic dance over the screen of his phone. Every ninety seconds, the speaker in the corner … Read more
How often do we slow down enough to let another person truly be seen? We talk about wanting authentic relationships, yet we habitually condense lives into surface evaluations. As Wayne Dyer noted, "Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances." When we react to someone’s outward presentation, we draw a curtain across … Read more
Why is it that we treat our slip-ups like wrong turns we need to hide, rather than information that can help us get back on course? When we mess up, our modern world so often tells us to pretend we are still headed in the right direction. But the ancient wisdom attributed to Confucius cuts … Read more
Since starting my meditation practice, I’ve made a habit of observing my inner critic. As a result, I’ve noticed that its most insidious tendency is to weave all kinds of stories around certain situations and people I meet. Usually, those stories are negative. They try to make someone “wrong” and assign blame, all the while … Read more
I believe that negativity doesn’t work. That’s why one of my favorite meditations is dissolving negative energy in my body and mind. It helps me to prevent an undesirable reaction instead of dealing with its consequences later on. But only few of us know about this type of meditation, let alone practice it on a … Read more