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I was looking back at an older article I’d written about keeping busy to avoid dealing with sadness when I came across a sentence I’d later decided to simplify. The original read: “The bath of self-pity, the wallow, the loathsome sticky-sweet pleasure of indulging in it — that no longer threatened to bring everything down … Read more

It was late enough that I should have been asleep when I opened the conversation again. Earlier that day, a friend and I had been making plans to see “Citizen Kane” at a local theater during a weekend retro screening. It was one of those repertory events that made the ordinary theater feel slightly different: … Read more

The afternoon was grey, the kind of Tuesday that seems to leach the color out of the walls before the sun has even begun to set. Jeremy sat on the edge of my corduroy sofa, his thumb performing a rhythmic dance over the screen of his phone. Every ninety seconds, the speaker in the corner … Read more

How often do we slow down enough to let another person truly be seen? We talk about wanting authentic relationships, yet we habitually condense lives into surface evaluations. As Wayne Dyer noted, "Judgments prevent us from seeing the good that lies beyond appearances." When we react to someone’s outward presentation, we draw a curtain across … Read more

Why is it that we treat our slip-ups like wrong turns we need to hide, rather than information that can help us get back on course? When we mess up, our modern world so often tells us to pretend we are still headed in the right direction. But the ancient wisdom attributed to Confucius cuts … Read more