What is yin-yang? This question is at once utterly simple and wildly complicated. Because yin and yang are the most commonly known concepts from Chinese philosophy, they have practically become English words themselves. This familiarity may suggest that their meanings are obvious but this is hardly so. In the TED-Ed video below, John Bellaimey explains the more subtle and lesser known aspects of yinyang. Please enjoy!

If you’re ready to dive even deeper into the hidden meanings of yin and yang, then you can’t go wrong with The Ultimate Guide to Yin Yang: An Illustrated Exploration of the Chinese Concept of Opposites. This book is for everyone who are interested in Taoism, alternative medicine, martial arts and other Eastern fields of study. Here’s what the author writes about his book:

The aim of all my work is to bring complex ideas to a wider audience without losing the richness of the subject, and this book is no different. It opens a gateway into the mysterious world of yinyang and gives you two paths to follow. The first leads you to a solid historical understanding of the origins and evolution of yinyang; the second is a way to use these ancient teachings in your own life, to follow the sage masters of old and benefit from the bounty of the eternal Dao.

Complement with Lao Tzu and his teaching on the value of opposite forces in our lives.

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In 1969, Swiss-American psychiatrist Elisabeth Kubler-Ross identified the five stages of dying in her groundbreaking book On Death and Dying. Three decades later, in her final book On Grief and Grieving, co-authored with her friend David Kessler and published posthumously, Kubler-Ross adapted the stages she had observed in the dying to account for the similar stages she had also observed in those who are grieving. The five stages of grief are:

Denial

Anger

Bargaining

Depression

Acceptance

In the fifth stage, acceptance, we acknowledge the reality of the loss. We take some time to stop and breathe into the undeniable fact that our loved ones are gone. It’s anything but easy, painful and certainly not an end to our sorrow. “However, there’s been an assumed finality about this fifth stage that Elisabeth and I never intended,” writes David Kessler, “Over the years I came to realize that there’s a crucial sixth stage to the healing process: Finding Meaning.”

David Kessler writes:

Through meaning, we can find more than pain. When a loved one dies, or when we experience any kind of serious loss — the end of a marriage, the closing of the company where we work, the destruction of our home in a natural disaster — we want more than the hard fact of that loss. We want to find meaning. Loss can would and paralyze. It can hang over us for years. But finding meaning in loss empowers us to find a path forward.

This realization came to Kessler in the wake of the tragedy in his own life — the loss of his twenty-one-year-old son. In a sentiment that calls to mind the letter of a grieving father to Albert Einstein, Kessler writes:

Nothing in either my personal or my professional life as a grief specialist had prepared me for the loss I experienced when I embarked on this book — the unexpected death of my twenty-one-year-old son. This was a loss so shattering that despite all the years I’d spent helping others through their grief, I didn’t know if there was anything that could assist me through my own.

Ultimately, meaning comes through finding a way to sustain our love for the person after their death while we move forward with our lives. That doesn’t mean we’ll stop missing the ones we loved, but it does mean we’ll experience a heightened awareness of how precious life is. Whenever it ends — at a few days or in extreme old age — we rarely think that life is long enough. Therefore, we must try to value it every day and live it to the fullest. In that way, we do the best honor to those whose deaths we grieve. Kessler writes:

1. Meaning is relative and personal.
2. Meaning takes time. You may not find it until months or even years after loss.
3. Meaning doesn’t require understanding. It’s not necessary to understand why someone died in order to find meaning.
4. Even when you do find meaning, you won’t feel it was worth the cost of what you lost.
5. Your loss is not a test, a lesson, something to handle, a gift, or a blessing. Loss is simply what happens to you in life. Meaning is what you make happen.
6. Only you can find your own meaning.
7. Meaningful connections will heal painful memories.

Quoting Erich Fromm who famously said, “To spare oneself from grief at all costs can be achieved only at the price of total detachment, which excludes the ability to experience happiness,” Kessler writes:

As time goes by, I have been able to keep finding deeper meaning in [my son] David’s life as well as in his death…. Meaning is the love I feel for my son. Meaning is the way I have chosen to bear witness to the gifts he gave me. … For all of us, meaning is a reflection of the love we have for those we have lost. Meaning is the sixth stage of grief, the stage where the healing often resides.

Complement The Sixth Stage of Grief with the “Parable of the Mustard Seed” and then revisit this poem-turned-song by One Voice Children’s Choir.

Please enjoy this selection of classical music for reading kindly provided to us by Halidon Music. The tracklist is below the video.

CLASSICAL MUSIC FOR READING

01. Saint-Saens – The Carnival of the Animals: XIII, The Swan 00:00
02. Debussy – 2 Arabesques: No. 1, Andantino con moto 02:38
03. Satie – Trois Gymnopédies: No. 1, Lent et douloureux 06:44
04. Chopin – Nocturnes, Op. 9: No. 2 in E-flat major 09:32
05. Debussy – Suite Bergamasque, L. 75: III. Clair de Lune 13:51
06. Faulkner – Daydreaming 18:34
07. Yiruma – River Flows in You 21:30
08. Einaudi – Le Onde 24:32
09. Chopin – Douze Etudes, Op. 25: No. 1 “Aeolian Harp” 27:39
10. Liszt – Consolations, S. 172: No. 3, Lento placido 30:07
11. Debussy – Rêverie, L. 68 34:09
12. Tchaikovsky – The Seasons, Op. 37a: No. 5, May. White Nights 38:22
13. Tchaikovsky – The Seasons, Op. 37a: No. 6, June. Barcarolle 42:59
14. Tchaikovsky – The Seasons, Op. 37a: No. 12, December. Christmas 48:14
15. Mozart – Rondò in D major, K. 485 (Live Recording) 52:43
16. Galuppi – Piano Sonata No. 5 in C Major: I. Andante (Live Recording) 59:24
17. Costantini – Elegia 1:04:36
18. Sakamoto – Energy Flow 1:06:52
19. Sakamoto – Aqua 1:10:27
20. Einaudi – Nefeli 1:13:57
21. Faulkner – Ballade 1:17:43
22. Faulkner – Springtime 1:20:36
23. Corelli – Concerto Grosso No. 1 in D Major, Op. 6: I. Largo 1:23:40
24. Corelli – Concerto Grosso No. 9 in F Major, Op. 6: I. Preludio 1:26:35
25. Corelli – Concerto Grosso No. 9 in F Major, Op. 6: III. Corrente 1:28:42
26. Telemann – Viola Concerto in G Major, TWV 51:G9: I. Largo 1:30:36
27. Barrière – 6 Cello Sonatas: No. 4 in G Major: I. Andante 1:34:10
28. Telemann – Viola Concerto in G Major, TWV 51:G9: IV. Presto 1:38:55
29. Stamitz – Sinfonia Concertante in D Major: II. Romanza 1:42:01
30. Trad. – Greensleves (with variations) (Arr. for Cello and Violin) 1:48:34
31. Einaudi – Nuvole Bianche (Arr. for Two Cellos) 1:52:02
32. Faulkner – New Beginning 1:58:33
33. Mozart/Liszt – Ave Verum Corpus, S. 44 2:02:38
34. Mozart – Piano Sonata No. 16 in C Major, K. 545 “For Beginners”: II. Andante 2:04:58
35. Mozart – Piano Sonata No. 17 in B-Flat Major, K. 570: II. Adagio 2:08:43
36. Liszt – Liebesträume, S. 541: No. 3 in A-Flat Major 2:15:50
37. Schumann – Kinderszenen, Op. 15: No. 7, Träumerei 2:21:36
38. Debussy – Préludes, Premier livre, L. 117: No. 8, La fille aux cheveux de lin 2:24:53

Track 1 performed by Sarah Joy (cello) & Kathy Hohstadt (piano)
Tracks 2, 4-7, 10, 11, 21, 22 & 32 performed by Luke Faulkner
Tracks 3, 8, 17-20, 33-35 performed by Carlo Balzaretti (solo piano)
Tracks 9 & 36-38 performed by Giovanni Umberto Battel (solo piano)
Tracks 12-16 performed by Vadim Chaimovich (solo piano)
Tracks 23-25 performed by Kiev Chamber Orchestra, Liviu Buiuc
Tracks 26, 28 & 29 performed by Giovanni Antonioni (viola), Warmia Symphony Orchestra, Silvano Frontalini
Tracks 27 & 31 performed by Mr & Mrs Cello
Track 30 performed by Duo.Hansen