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7 Simple Ways to Get Better at Single-Tasking

Updated: March 3, 2021 by Gavril Nikolaev Leave a Comment

Maybe this has happened to you. You have a goal, a plan, and a list of all the things you need to do.

You feel determined as you begin checking off tasks from your list.

But then you get a text message from a friend, a work-related email, a Facebook notification, a new follower on Instagram.

One click leads to another, and before you know it, you lose track of time.

The next day you tell yourself, “Today will be different. I will be focused.” Yet, for some strange reason, the cycle continues, and you find yourself repeating the same mistakes over and over again.

This happened to me as well.

When I started this blog, I juggled ten or more tasks at the same time.

I jumped back and forth between replying to emails, searching for new information, thinking about promotion strategies and in the midst of it all had to find some time to write.

At the end of the day, I would end up with a dozen of half-finished tasks, not a single one of them done the right way.

That was until I refocused and applied the following tips.

A cup of coffee, apple, and to-do list with text overlay: 7 Simple Ways to Get Better at Single-Tasking

A woman stretching her arm in the morning with text overlay: 7 Simple Ways to Get Better at Single-Tasking

#1. Ask Yourself a Question

ask why

The first step you can take is to get clear on top priorities of the day. Start by asking, “Why am I doing this?”

Consider what importance does this task have to your overall goals in life. Sometimes you have tasks on your list just because you put it there automatically, without giving it a second thought.

It’s just something you have to do.

This unconscious approach results in long, disorganized lists that never really get done.

So just a few seconds of inner reflection can give you the clarity and simplicity that you need.

What do you do next?

# 2. Identify Key Pieces of the Puzzle

Now apply the question to all items on your list.

How do they measure in relation to your current top priority in life? Do they play a key role?

Can these pieces fit together and help you move forward? You should be able to see clearly which do and which don’t.

Put irrelevant tasks aside. They’re not entirely useless, but can confuse and lead you astray at some point.

You should end up with 3-5 most important tasks for the day that you need to do.

Write them down and put them somewhere visible. So visible that your gaze easily finds them wherever you look.

Stick a sheet of paper on your wall, put a sticky note on your computer screen. It will serve as constant reminder of your top priorities for the day.

#3. Break It Down

simplify

Complexity can slow you down even when you have only 3 tasks on your list.

If you feel stuck, break each task into basic components so that you’re taking one small step at a time.

This simple change will ground you in the present moment, and you will stop thinking about the outcome. Each tiny leap forward will be light and natural.

You may also have smaller tasks that need attention in some way or another. In that case, batch them between your most important tasks and turn them into mini-breaks between the bigger tasks.

#4. Design Your Environment

How often do you get distracted by checking email, Facebook, Twitter, Instagram?

Pause for a moment and catch yourself switching between the tabs in your browser, clicking links, reading new posts, and getting involved in discussions.

So many exciting things are happening at the same time, and it’s so easy to get lost in the noise.

Am I saying that you have to give it all up?

No.

You know without a doubt what you need to do, but automatic habits make you click anyway.

Here is a simple solution: design your environment in a way that will reduce your distractions to a minimum. By doing this, you can catch yourself in the middle of being distracted, stop, and re-focus.

So put away your phone, close browser tabs and apps that you don’t use, clear your desk. Now you have some breathing room for productive work.

#5. Involve Others

be accountable

Sometimes it can be hard to do it all on your own. Your willpower might fail you at any moment, and the threshold is minimal.

You can boost your motivation at any time by publicly announcing your intention to complete a task or achieve a goal.

Tell your partner or your friends what you set out to do.

Before you begin, put your social media to good use by making it public that you’re going to finish these 3 tasks today. Tweet it to your followers, post it on Facebook and Instagram.

You’ll be quite surprised how much motivation that will give you to stay on track.

#6. Stay With the Urge to Switch

Have you ever noticed an urge to switch tasks right in the middle of the process? It’s almost like some gravitational force is pulling you in the opposite direction.

Something else feels more critical and demands your attention. At that moment you are split into two halves: your body is performing the task, but the mind is elsewhere.

Instead of fighting it, acknowledge this feeling. Stay with it.

Become highly alert and continue with your current task. Don’t try to predict the outcome of your actions, let them flow unconditionally.

Forget about everything else and let the task become you.

#7. Pat Yourself on the Back

Just as it’s important to finish the task, it’s equally important to pat yourself on the back for the job well done.

But don’t feel rushed to the next thing. Pause to reflect and acknowledge what you’ve just done.

Let the feeling of accomplishment flow through your body. Let it sink in and energize you from within.

Breathe in, breathe out.

Start Single-Tasking Today

You spend your days controlled by your schedule. Unending tasks, projects, work meetings, personal arrangements, deadlines.

It’s time to stop being controlled by outer circumstances and take a conscious pause.

By stepping back and looking deep within you’ll realize what you need to do.

You will feel calm and in control. Every action you take will flow naturally from your inner state of presence and clear perspective.

Look at the tips above and start implementing them to get better at single-tasking today. To help, I created these worksheets that you can download via the button below.

Learn to Beat Overwhelm in 7 Steps

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6 Free Meditation Apps That Will Teach You How To Meditate

Updated: March 3, 2021 by Gavril Nikolaev Leave a Comment

Tough, isn’t it? You want to meditate, and you want to find an easy way to do it.

So you think, “There is definitely an app for that out there, so I should I just find one and start using it.”

Sounds simple, but gets complicated when you start searching.

iTunes has countless options, and all of them promise you immediate results.

You see all this variety and can’t decide which one to choose. For example, here are some of the features that you need to consider:

  • Introductory program for beginners
  • Duration
  • Variety
  • Voice
  • Free content
  • Paid content
  • Additional features
  • The cost of subscription

I see so many questions about meditation apps that I decided to write this article to help you make the right decision.

The following is a list of 6 best meditation apps for beginners designed to jumpstart your meditation practice.

A woman with headphones looking at the sunset sea with text overlay: 6 Free Meditation Apps for Beginners

A man with headphones sitting in a lotus pose with text overlay: 6 iPhone Meditation Apps for Beginners

#1 Breethe

When you download Breethe (formerly OMG. I Can Meditate!), it will prompt you to take free 7-Day Meditation Challenge for beginners.
Each session is 12 to 18 minutes long. The longer duration will offer you more periods of silence.

You also get 1 free meditation from the premium category Life Situations:

  • Wake Up with Intention
  • 5-Minute Meditation
  • Balance Breath
  • Blanket of Love
  • Dealing with Pressure
  • Sweet Dreams

What sets this app apart is 25 free meditations for kids. They are broken up into 4 categories: Kids 6-9, Tweens 10-13, Teens 14-17, and Family.

You should try this app if you like to meditate for longer periods of time (up to 18 minutes) and would like to teach your kids to do the same.

For the curious: how losing mother, child, and husband helped Lynn Goldberg, the founder of the app, to discover the power of meditation.
Watch her interview with HuffPost on YouTube. Interesting moments: 02:18, 14:55, 27:20, 32:35

Download for free on iTunes, premium $12.5/month.

#2 Calm

Calm will guide you through a free 7-Day beginner program that will teach you the basics of meditation. Each session is 10 minutes long, non-adjustable.

You also get 1 free meditation from premium categories such as

  • Stress
  • Focus
  • Anxiety
  • Sleep
  • Happiness
  • Gratitude
  • Self-Esteem.

What sets this app apart is Sleep Stories. Yes, the stories for adults. When you download the app you have access to 4 of them: Blue Gold narrated by Stephen Fry, The Lavender Valley, The Secret Lagoon, and The Waterfall.

This app is perfect for those who are comfortable with meditating for 10 minutes straight and have trouble falling asleep.

Download for free on iTunes, premium $12.99/month.

#3 Headspace

Headspace is one of the most popular meditation apps out there. It has free 10-Day Basics program designed to help total beginners start meditating from day one. You also get great flexibility in terms of meditation duration: each session is 3, 5, or 10 minutes long.

When done with the Basics program, you can try 1 free meditation from the following categories:

  • Anxiety
  • Regret
  • Self-Esteem
  • Productivity
  • Motivation.

The notable feature of this app is funny animations between sessions that explain different aspects of meditation.

This app is perfect for all beginners.

For the curious: How Andy Puddicombe became a Buddhist monk and founded the Headspace app. Watch his famous TED talk about meditation on YouTube.

Download for free on iTunes, premium $12.99/month.

#4 The Mindfulness App

The first thing you need to do is go through free 5-day Get Started program. All sessions are 5-minute long and give you meditation tips and instructions on how to use the app optimally.

After that, you can play around with

  • Timed Meditations
  • 5-Minute Body Scan
  • Personalized meditation.

What sets this app apart is the flexibility of a Personalized Meditation Timer which allows you to set duration (1-95 minutes) and intervals of bells, turn on the guided intro and background music.

Please note that you might find the voice in the 5-day program a bit distracting, but it gets better in Timed Meditation.

Download for free on iTunes, premium $9.99/month.

#5 Smiling Mind

The basic 3-part program will provide you with a short and informative introduction to mindfulness meditation.

Created by Australian non-profit organization Smiling Mind is completely free and you can listen to all of their meditation programs in these categories:

  • Kids
  • Adults
  • School
  • Sport

Smiling Mind has partnered with psychologists and health professionals to make the app accessible to everyone, regardless of their location. They also aim to see mindfulness on the Australian National Curriculum by 2020.

Smiling Mind is a totally free app that can be used by everyone.

Download for free on iTunes.

#6 10% Happier

This app has free 8-Day Beginner course called One Minute Counts. Each session can be adjusted to be 1, 5, 10 long. Each day you listen to a new teacher who has a unique way of guiding you through meditation.

Once you’re done with the basic course you can listen to 1 free meditation from the premium content:

  • Open Awareness
  • Seeing Thoughts Clearly
  • Getting Out of Your Head
  • Mindfulness Meditation
  • Attending to Awareness with Jon Kabat-Zinn
  • Working with Anxiety
  • Falling Asleep
  • Walking with Awareness
  • Commuting
  • Scattered

The notable feature of the app is a personal meditation coach who can answer your questions in a special chat room inside the app. Pretty cool!

This app is perfect for super busy people who have very little time to meditate during the day.

For the curious: learn how Dan Harris of Good Morning America discovered the power of meditation after he had a panic attack on national television. Watch his story on YouTube.

Download for free in iTunes, premium $9.99 month.

Choose Your Meditation App

Now that you know more about these great meditation apps, choose the one you like and try it out yourself.

Still not sure? Then download my app comparison chart below, it shows you all of the features on one page so you can compare all 6 apps and make a better decision.

Pick a Perfect Meditation App for You

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How to Stop Negative Thoughts with Mindfulness

Updated: March 3, 2021 by Gavril Nikolaev Leave a Comment

Do you feel your negative thoughts are spinning out of control?

You are not alone. Everyone has a personal tormentor living inside their head.

And the strangest thing we let him be there all the time. Criticizing, blaming, judging — this is what you do to yourself and others.

What if I told there is a way out? What if I told you that a mindful approach handles negative thoughts so that you’ll be able to deal with them anywhere and anytime beautifully?

Let’s dive in.

A couple on Cadillac Mountain during sunset with text overlay: How to Stop Negative Thoughts with Mindfulness

A woman with glasses relaxed and smiling with text overlay: How to Stop Negative Thoughts with Mindfulness

A woman looking at the ocean with text overlay: How to Stop Negative Thoughts with Mindfulness

Notice Your Thoughts

If you want to learn how to stop negative thoughts, the first step is to notice them.

But when we live on autopilot, immersed in our daily activities, we hardly ever have time just to stop and be aware of what’s going on in our heads.

For example, I used to wake up with a heavy feeling every morning. Everything seemed meaningless: getting off the bed, brushing my teeth, putting on the clothes, eating breakfast, going to work.

Looking back, I now see how negative thoughts about going to work were making me unhappy. It might sound strange, but I wasn’t really aware of these thoughts because my subconscious mind masked them as normal.

Now I can recognize them easily. How? Through daily meditation practice. So if you want to deal with negative thoughts, the first step is meditation.

Before moving to the second step, let’s talk about 2 common mind traps that many people fall into.

Avoid Two Common Mind Traps

In the very beginning being aware of your thoughts may lead you into a trap.

1. Trying to control your thoughts.

How many times have you caught yourself trying to control or suppress your negative thoughts?

Well, I’m raising my hand about a thousand times right now.

One of the things I used to tell myself, “Better stop thinking about this, or you’ll go crazy.”

That tactic doesn’t work because when you try to stop a negative thought, you’re not stopping it but giving it more power over you.

If you can’t stop your thoughts, you might try to substitute them, which leads to the second trap.

2. Trying to replace negative thoughts with positive thoughts.

Instead of thinking about how I hated my job, I would try to think about the money I was making and how it would help me stay independent.

When I finally quit my 9 to 5 and started this “new chapter,” it didn’t turn out to be all that great. I’ve encountered plenty of new challenges and problems.

You can’t always think positive thoughts no matter how hard you try. And when it seems that bad stuff is finally over, something else comes up and makes you unhappy.

So what to do then?

Find Triggers

If you want to catch your negative thoughts, you need to be proactive and find what triggers them.

But how do you do that? Observe your negative emotions and reactions around specific activities, places, and people.

You can think about it as a chain that looks like this: thought -> emotion -> reaction. Most of the time, we’re not aware of the first link in this chain (of the thought). (Explain) So the unconscious thought produces an emotion immediately followed by a reaction.

For example, how does it feel when you’re stuck in a traffic jam? Are you frustrated, angry, impatient? Can you recognize the thoughts behind these emotions?

What about your place of work? Do any of your coworkers make you behave or react in some way or another?

By pinpointing triggers, you can train your mind to be more conscious of negative thoughts.

Accept Your Thoughts

You might ask, “What exactly does it mean to accept your thoughts?” Even though it sounds simple, the act itself is not.

I would explain it as being comfortable with every negative thought that pops up in your head and letting go of the need to label it in any way.

Put a conscious effort to be with your negative thought and realize that it’s not that threatening. It’s just a thought.

If you can’t accept it, then accept the fact that you can’t accept. Once you’ve done that, you’ve won half the battle. It’s all that needed.

For now.

Just practice acceptance whenever possible. It will eventually help you change your perspective on the true nature of negative thoughts.

Disidentify from Your Thoughts

The next step is to create a distance between you and your thoughts. At first, you might find it difficult, so I suggest trying this little mental exercise that I used at the beginning of my practice:

1. Whenever I noticed a negative thought, I would first mentally repeat it to myself, for example, “I can’t do anything right.”

2. Then I would change that to, “I think I can’t do anything right.”

3. And finally, I would change it to “I’ve noticed I have a thought that I can’t do anything right.”

By doing this, you can see that it’s only a thought, it’s not you. The thought loses its power to draw you in, and you become more aware of your thinking patterns.

Try this exercise with your own negative thoughts. You can also download this free worksheet to implement the process described in this article.

5 Ways to Stop Negative Thoughts

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3 Relaxing Meditation Postures for Beginners

Updated: March 3, 2021 by Gavril Nikolaev 4 Comments

Choosing the right meditation posture when you’re just starting out can make or break your meditation practice. What you usually see in images with people sitting in a lotus pose is not how you want to start meditating. That pose requires a great deal of flexibility and training to execute correctly. If misused it can significantly hinder your progress and potentially turn you off from sitting meditation altogether. It is essential to feel comfortable and relaxed when attempting to do meditation for the first time. You need to start with a familiar posture that can be maintained for 10 or 20 minutes, especially if you’re not sure how long to meditate. In this post, I’ll describe 3 meditation postures you can try and experiment with as you choose the most convenient one that works for you. A woman meditating on the lake shore during sunset with text overlay: 3 Relaxing Meditation Postures for Beginners 3 women meditating on the beach with text overlay: 3 Relaxing Meditation Postures for Beginners A woman meditating with text overlay: 3 Relaxing Meditation Postures for Beginners

Meditation Posture #1 – Sitting on a Chair

The key to getting most out of this simple posture is to make sure that when you sit your hips are slightly higher than your knees. This ensures that your pelvis is tilted forward to support a natural curvature of your spine that will help you sit straight and unsupported. Do not lean against the backrest and sit closer to the edge of your seat. If necessary, use a cushion or a pillow to bring your hips over the knees to prevent slouching. Throughout sitting meditation, you should maintain a straight back and keep your head in line with your spine. Place your feet flat on the floor and hands on the thighs, palms down or up. Alternatively, you can fold your arms on your lap.

Meditation Posture #2 – Kneeling

If you don’t like sitting on a chair then kneeling with support might be a better option. Kneeling posture has the advantage of the stability of the floor and the tilt of the pelvis which helps you keep your back straight. There are two ways you can sit in this pose: without support on your heels or with a kneeling bench or a pillow. For starters, I recommend placing a pillow or two between your legs and sit down. Don’t put too much pressure on your knees. If it starts to hurt, choose another posture.

Meditation Posture #3 – Lying Down

Finally, if none of the sitting postures work for you, then you can meditate lying down. Just lie down on a firm, soft surface with your arms at your sides and palms facing upwards. Your feet should be placed apart on the floor with the knees up and not touching each other. One drawback to this posture is that you can easily fall asleep if you try to use it in the evening. Because of this, it’s best to use it in the mornings when you’re still full of energy.

Ultimately, there is not one right way to do it. You can practice sitting meditation in any posture that you feel most comfortable for you. I suggest experimenting with different postures and getting a feel for how each one affects your concentration level. The best position will cause you minimal physical discomfort and allow you to meditate for more extended periods of time. If you feel pain or extreme discomfort during meditation stop using that posture and choose something different. To help, I made this free worksheet that you can download by clicking the button below.

3 Meditation Poses for Better Relaxation

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