When People You Care About Are Merely Going Through the Motions During a Subtle Emotional Downturn, They Often Retreat From the Small Relational Rituals That Hold Their Closest Bonds Together

The subway car was unusually empty for a Sunday morning, bathed in that pale, underground light as we rattled toward the museum to see the new Van Gogh exhibit. Jane sat next to me, her coat neatly buttoned, her eyes tracking the digital stop announcements with perfect regularity. When the train lurched, she adjusted her … Read more

Eckhart Tolle Said That We Live Under an ‘Assumption That the Now Needs to Be Filled with Something All the Time,’ and That Made Me Think About How Much of My Free Time I’ve Spent Choosing Distraction Instead of Cultivating Attention

Twelve years ago, I deleted every tweet I had ever written and walked away from my account, leaving behind a blank profile. I did it because I was worn down by the constant chatter of a platform that demanded my attention every hour. Yet, even now, the urge to log back in visits me during … Read more

Those Who Find Themselves Trapped Within a Rigid Reality Tunnel Constructed by Chronic Worry Often Lose Their Sense of Agency — a Subtle Shift Where Survival Strategies Begin to Dictate the Terms of Living

Years ago, I worked alongside a man named Patrick in the buzzing corridors of a wireless network operator’s customer service call center. Every morning, I would watch Patrick prepare his desk for the shift with a precise intensity. Before he even logged into his headset, he would sit beneath the fluorescent lights and methodically open … Read more